Sunday, January 20, 2013

Another Baby Shower???

So I recently had a bad experience at a baby shower. It was after work for one of my co-workers. I should mention that most of my co-workers have children, are pregnant, or are 24 and "not ready" yet. I should also mention that at least 2 people at a time have been pregnant over the last two an a half years we have been trying. My workplace is a cause of constant annoyance and/or sadness. I thought that I was okay with the shower since I am constantly surrounded by these annoyances. Pregnancy, childbirth, and child rearing are the topic 99% of the time. I felt like since work was like a baby shower everyday, I should be fine. I was wrong. I made it through for about an hour, but then I had to get out. I made it to the car, then I lost it. It was unexpected. I haven't actually cried about any infertility stuff in a while, so I guess I was due. I just couldn't take all of the "you have to bring this thing to the hospital", and the "you won't sleep for years," and so on. The problem is that I have another one next week! I absolutely cannot go to this one! Not just because I can't take the situation again, but because this one will probably a million times worse. The girl who is pregnant did not know she was pregnant until she was 23 weeks along! She is always talking about how "traumatic" it was because she wasn't ready. I'm sure everyone at the shower will have to know all about the "funny" story of how she didn't know she was pregnant. Yeah, real funny.

4 comments:

amessinthere said...

I completely relate. I didn't even go at all to my co-worker's shower this past weekend, because I'd already done that once before at another. And yeah, my workplace is surrounded with pregnancy. Some days I sit in my office and cry. So don't feel bad. You're not going through it alone.

Erin said...

Thanks so much for reading and for commenting. I know I'm not the only one going through all of this, but It's nice to actually hear from someone else who is going through it too. I just saw that you have a blog too! I will definitely start following!

LaLa said...

When I hit the point of saturation on baby showers, I either had a "doctor appointment" so I would leave work before the shower started, or I would leave the office for a late lunch and just say "so sorry, I had to go run a really important errand, and completely forgot that was today!"

I donate money to the group gift for people I work with regularly, but I do not attend showers anymore.

JenS said...

I just went to a baby shower this weekend. I was expecting it to be bad and I expected tears, but mostly I just felt numb. I left when I started getting annoyed by all the birth stories. It wasn't fun by any means, but it was for my cousin and I think I would have regretted not going.